When a man enters a relationship with a woman, the love he has for sometimes manifests itself in ugly forms like over-possession. Men who are possessive of their women do not let their partners do anything without them, otherwise they would feel the cold sting of horrifying possibilities. This is, in a sense, a form of obsessive paranoia, and women who are with possessive men should immediately start electing red flags as soon as new, unpromising characteristics pop up. If you’re new to the venture, the following is a list of tips on how to deal with possessive guys.
Learn to deal with the extra attention
A man may not reveal his true possessive colors at the beginning of the relationship, but if over-possession is his inherent nature, then it will come out eventually. Once it does, if you choose to stay with this man, you must learn to deal with the extra attention that he will be giving you. Most guys can have their woman go around and do whatever she wants independently without raising an eyebrow. Possessive men, on the other hand, will raise their eyebrow at every possible drawer a woman opens, and will have a set of invasive questions waiting for her at every turn. Of course, the essence of the man probably comes down to more than his possessive nature, and that might be what keeps the woman hanging around. However, it does not change the fact that the woman will have to deal with a lot more attention and questions with a possessive man than with any other sort of man.
Be patient during the bad sex
One of the traits that come with being a possessive man is that they tend to have a weak sexual identity. They always think about their woman leaving them in order to go have sex with other men, which is not a mindset that is most conducive to high prowess in the bedroom. Possessive men are simply lackluster lovers, which mean that women have to be patient when having bad sex with them. Patience in this venture will be the key that saves the relationship. If you combine patience with an open line of communication about how he should act in the bedroom in order to give you pleasure, then you and your partner will be well on your way to having better sex. However, if he seems to have no chance of improving his sexual chops, then you will just have to sigh deeply and be patient as a monk, night after night.
Be honest with him
If your man is possessive, and you still love him enough to be with him, then you need to keep in mind the importance of always being honest about what you’re doing and where you’re going. By keeping an honest exchange between you two, you will optimize your chances of making sure that his brain is fully clear of bizarre paranoias moving forward. However, if you show the slightest indication that you have been dishonest with him as to what you are doing or where you are going, then he will never cease to catch you in the act of lying to him again. Avoid this horrific situation, and just be honest with him right from the get-go.
Find out where to go if you need help
If your man is not only possessive, but violently so, then you need to find out where to go if you need help. If your partner has shown some signs of violence in relation to his possessive nature (perhaps he grabbed your arm a little hard when he asked you where you’ve been all night), then you need to contact the authorities and see how you can go about getting this man out of your life. Even your old pen pals over at the online dating websites might be able to help out. There are several places in your area that you can go to if you need help, and they will all accept you with open arms if you are being threatened by an obsessively possessive man.
If he’s too possessive, leave him
We know that you love him, but if he is possessive to an alarming degree, you might have to start thinking about leaving him. Of course you want to live your life with a partner whom you love, but you also want to live your life on your own terms. Having a partner who keeps an eye over your shoulder at every turn will eat at you over a while, and you really won’t be able to take it anymore. At this point, we highly recommend you leave your possessive man, and find someone else who will allows you to be yourself.