How to forgive a cheater: Tell them how you feel
Figuring out why you should forgive a cheater
isn’t an easy decision, but it is one that you need to make. If you have decided to forgive your cheating partner and try to save your relationship, there are a few things for should know. First off, get everything you need to say off your chest as soon as possible. If you begin to keep things in and start neglecting to tell your partner how you feel, you will never be able to forgive them to your fullest capacity. Also, if you show your lover how much they hurt you they will be less inclined to repeat the action because they will remember how sad it made you.
Getting over an affair: Communication is key
Want to stop wondering if he is going to cheat again? In order to do so you need to start working on your communication skills. It’s completely normal for someone to doubt their partner’s dedication after being cheated on, but the feeling shouldn’t last forever. If you and your lover work on your communication problems, you’ll be able to properly express your feelings without having to scream or engage in a fight — which will lower the chances of your partner returning to his old ways.
Forgiving a cheater: Don’t fantasize about getting even
Forgiving someone for cheating is not something you need to do, so if you’ve chosen to do so with ulterior motives in mind — stop right there! Getting even shouldn’t be on your mind when deciding to get back with a cheating ex, especially if you want the relationship to work this time around. Sure, in a perfect world you would be able to show him how much he hurt you, but if he really cares about you, he will be hurting as well but for different reasons. If you’re fantasizing about getting even every chance you get, it might be wise for you to re-evaluate your reasons for getting back with your ex.
Affair forgiveness is necessary for the relationship to continue
When I decided to get back with my ex who cheated on me in Austin, I knew I had to tread wisely. I also knew that in order for the relationship to work, affair forgiveness was the most important thing of all. A relationship cannot evolve if one person is always angry and the other is always trying to show how sorry they are. Affair forgiveness, real forgiveness, allows the couple to turn a fresh page and start being themselves again.
Second chances bring trust issues
If someone cheats on you, they immediately lose all your trust. Still, some people get back with their cheating partners and try to resolve their issues, despite no longer trusting their partners with their lives. Since trust is the base of any healthy relationship, it is miraculous that some of these relationships actually end up lasting and progressively growing stronger. If you’re having second thoughts about getting back with the person you love because they cheated on you, remember that trust can be earned back after a while, and all can be forgiven as long as your partner is serious this time around.