How to Forgive a Cheater?

I’ve lived in Montreal my whole life, and I know all about the dynamic dating scene in this city. There are people of all genders, facial types, hair colors, and body types here, and I know that more than most people. I’ve never been married, so I’ve spent most of my life engaged in the Montreal dating scene. From my experience, about half of the people you can possibly be with have the potential inside themselves to cheat on you. That’s right — half the people you meet can possibly cheat on you. That is a truly daunting statistic, but from my experience, it’s totally true. I’ve been in dozens of relationships, and I’ve been cheated on half the time. Some of those times, I actually discovered my partner in the sheets with another person! Those were all really weird images to process, but I managed to get through them. The person I’m with now has actually cheated on me once before, a few months back. It was a really hard time for us to go through, but I’m happy to say that I managed to forgive her for what she did, and now I barely think about it anymore. If you’ve been cheated on, and you’re looking to reach a place of forgiveness, then look no further. I just might be able to give you some tools to help.

Is an Affair Worthy of Forgiveness?

Is an affair worthy of forgiveness? Well, first answer me this: do you still love your partner. I don’t mean ‘like’ or ‘lust’ here, I’m talking about the real deal. If you truly love the person you’re with, then it’s worth giving them another chance after they’ve cheated on you. Love is a singular thing — there’s no one else in the world like your partner, so you can’t replicate that exact kind of love with anyone else but them.

Is your Partner Worthy of Forgiveness?

Think about your partner deeply as a person, and ask yourself if they are worthy of forgiveness. Basically, consider whether they are the type of person to cheat liberally during every opportunity that arises, or if they only have the tendency to cheat once in a relationship, during a moment of extreme personal weakness. If the former is the case, then your efforts might be wasted (unless you’re into the concept of open relationships); if the latter is the case, then your partner might just be worthy of forgiveness.

Is Your Relationship Worth Saving?

Think back on your relationship, and consider all aspects of it. Did the relationship improve the lifestyle and state of mind of both you and your partner? If it did, then it might be in your best interests to preserve the bond you have with your partner for as long as possible, without resulting in pain on either side, of course. Again, if your partner only cheated once in a moment of pure weakness, they might still end up being loyal to you in the long run. Only time will tell.

Do You Still Love Your Partner?

I ask you this again, because it is the most important situation in these circumstances. Do you still love your partner? Is the love totally true? Can they potentially be your soulmate? If the answer is yes to all three, then you should definitely give forgiveness a chance.