How to Forgive a Cheater
I’ve been cheated on in Bendigo once before. Because you’ve found your way to this page, you probably have, too. I know, this is a real cruddy place to be in. I’m thinking back now on when I was cheated on by my fiancee. It was 15 years ago, and we were about to get married in only two weeks. I came home early from work one day and found her in my home office, on my desk, having sex with my boss. It was the most horrible thing I’ve ever seen. To this day, I still can’t get the image out of my mind. Needless to say, we didn’t end up going through with the wedding. In fact, I got her to pack up all of her bags and move out of my house that very night. I just couldn’t bear to ever look at her again.
So, from all of that, you might be wondering why I’m writing to you about forgiving someone for having an affair. Well, since that incident occurred, I haven’t been in a single relationship. Sure, I’ve had little flings here and there, but I’ve kept all of my women at a safe distance away from my heart. Why? Well, because I don’t want to get hurt again, not like last time. I’m also totally aware of how safe and lukewarm this way of life is. That’s why I’m writing this post, to open you up to the possibility that it is possible to forgive a cheater for what they did to you. I know that it is possible in principle, even though I haven’t managed to reach forgiveness myself. Learn from my mistakes, and read the following.
Step 1 — Prepare Yourself for Getting Over an Affair
When getting over an affair, it’s important to keep in mind that this will be an insanely hard thing to do. Actually, there won’t be many things as difficult as forgiving a lover for cheating. Despite how hard it is every step of the way, I urge you to stay strong and remember that you love this person. Only true love will keep your bond strong over time. If the love is anything less than true, salvaging the relationship is probably not worth it.
Step 2 — Communication is Key When Forgiving a Cheater
When it comes to forgiving a cheater, open communication is one of the most important things. I’m not saying that a lack of communication is what led your partner to cheat on you in the first place, however making sure that the communication lines stay open in the future is the best way to ensure that nothing is left unsaid, and that both you and your partner always know what’s on each other’s minds.
Step 3 — Let Your Partner Prove Their Loyalty
In endeavors like these, it’s up to your partner to do the bulk of the work. They need to prove themselves to you, and you need to sit back attentively and watch them do it. You can’t prove their loyalty for them, they need to do the hard work themselves.
Step 4 — Give Forgiveness Time
Forgiveness will take time, potentially even years. Again, if your love is true, then the process will be worth all the time in the world. I may never forgive that woman for what she did to me, but I know that you have a chance of finding inner peace and forgiveness if your intentions are true and you remain patient throughout the process.