Forgiving A Cheater
How to forgive a cheater: Tell them how you feel
Figuring out why you should forgive a cheater
isn’t an easy decision, but it is one that you need to make. If you have decided to forgive your cheating partner and try to save your relationship, there are a few things for should know. First off, get everything you need to say off your chest as soon as possible. If you begin to keep things in and start neglecting to tell your partner how you feel, you will never be able to forgive them to your fullest capacity. Also, if you show your lover how much they hurt you they will be less inclined to repeat the action because they will remember how sad it made you.
Getting over an affair: Communication is key
Want to stop wondering if he is going to cheat again? In order to do so you need to start working on your communication skills. It’s completely normal for someone to doubt their partner’s dedication after being cheated on, but the feeling shouldn’t last forever. If you and your lover work on your communication problems, you’ll be able to properly express your feelings without having to scream or engage in a fight — which will lower the chances of your partner returning to his old ways.
Forgiving a cheater: Don’t fantasize about getting even
Forgiving someone for cheating is not something you need to do, so if you’ve chosen to do so with ulterior motives in mind — stop right there! Getting even shouldn’t be on your mind when deciding to get back with a cheating ex, especially if you want the relationship to work this time around. Sure, in a perfect world you would be able to show him how much he hurt you, but if he really cares about you, he will be hurting as well but for different reasons. If you’re fantasizing about getting even every chance you get, it might be wise for you to re-evaluate your reasons for getting back with your ex.
Affair forgiveness is necessary for the relationship to continue
When I decided to get back with my ex who cheated on me in Austin, I knew I had to tread wisely. I also knew that in order for the relationship to work, affair forgiveness was the most important thing of all. A relationship cannot evolve if one person is always angry and the other is always trying to show how sorry they are. Affair forgiveness, real forgiveness, allows the couple to turn a fresh page and start being themselves again.
Second chances bring trust issues
If someone cheats on you, they immediately lose all your trust. Still, some people get back with their cheating partners and try to resolve their issues, despite no longer trusting their partners with their lives. Since trust is the base of any healthy relationship, it is miraculous that some of these relationships actually end up lasting and progressively growing stronger. If you’re having second thoughts about getting back with the person you love because they cheated on you, remember that trust can be earned back after a while, and all can be forgiven as long as your partner is serious this time around.
Relationships Change After Cheating
A Relationship will change after cheating occurs
Being in a relationship with someone is special because you know that they are the one you want to be with, and so when you find out that you aren’t the only person your partner wants to be with, your relationship can change within seconds. Cheating on your partner is never a good idea as it will jeopardize your relationship and maybe even result in its deterioration. Being able to properly identify cheating signs is a great way to prevent your partner from cheating on you for a long amount of time. The very second that you find out that your lover is cheating on you, your relationship will change and your trust will become nonexistent.
Trust will become rare in your relationship after an affair
Learning how to forgive a cheating partner
can be very tiresome, especially if it isn’t the first time that you were cheated on. If you’re dating a cheater simply because you’re in love with them, you need to realise that trust will become very rare in your relationship. Having an affair and coming clean about it is one thing, but if you’re constantly watching over your lover because you know they are going to try and cheat in private, you should just call it quits before you cause yourself any more damage.
Not all relationships withstand cheating
In some rare cases, having an affair can strengthen a relationship but only if the cheater admitted to their mistake and then begged their partner to give them another chance. Not everyone is able to forgive a cheater, and this is because being cheated on is a very serious ordeal, however, some people have been known to forgive cheaters and put the past behind them in order to focus on the future. Not all relationships can withstand cheating, but that doesn’t mean that the relationship wasn’t strong or worthwhile, it just means that cheating isn’t always seen as forgivable.
Retaliation affairs can take place
So, you decided to forgive your cheating partner and start anew, but you can’t shake the feeling of wanting to get revenge on them for doing you wrong. More often than not, partners who forgive their cheating lovers end up wanting to have a retaliation affair to make things even. Although an eye for an eye isn’t always the best way to look at things, some couples see it as fair and cannot move forward until they have a retaliation affair of their own.
Cheating causes resentment and insecurities in relationships
When I was cheated on in Cardiff, I couldn’t help but feel like I had done something to deserve it — which was ridiculous. After deciding to give my partner another chance, I started feeling insecure in my relationship, which made it worse than it ever was. In the end I realised that I resented my partner for his actions and couldn’t continue our relationship because it was turning me into a completely different person. Since I didn’t want to feel like I’d done something to be cheated on or insecure over the fact that the person who was supposed to love me unconditionally had sex with someone else, I knew that breaking up with my lover was the best thing I could do for myself. Want to learn how to how to move on after an affair? Read our guide on the subject.